Choosing your maid of honor can, sometimes, be a daunting task. After all, if you're like my daughters, you've got sisters, cousins, future sister-in-laws, and close friends to pick from. Usually, like in my case, a sister will usurp all other relationships! However, if you don't have a sister, or you have more than one, choosing can be difficult.  Who do you choose?!  HOW do you choose?

As you're considering bestowing this honor upon one of your candidates, keep these things in mind:

1)  Is this an "all about me" person?  Some girls, nay, some PEOPLE, are just wired to view the world as it spins around THEM. How many times have you started telling this girl something important and the next thing you know, the conversation has turned totally around and she's talking about herself?!  Let me tell you right now: she will NOT make a good maid of honor!  A maid of honor MUST be there to SUPPORT you!  She must be thinking, what does my girlfriend need right now?  When and where should I throw the bachelorette party?  Does she want me to go with her to look at wedding flowers, the wedding cake, her bridal dress?  Is she stressed? Does she need to vent or have a night out to just unwind?  It's GOT to be about the BRIDE!  If she's not about you, cross her off the list!

2)  Maybe this girl is an egomaniac. Be honest: they're out there! When the wedding photographer comes around, will she squeeze out front and center?! Will her needs come before yours? If you try making a date to go bridal dress shopping, will she moan and say she say she's too tired or she was planning to get a pedicure that day? You know people like this; I know you do! Do yourself a favor and do NOT make her your maid of honor!

3)  How long have you known this girlfriend?  Some relationships span over a decade - like bestest friends from grammar school. In my opinion, those friendships should, indeed, be honored.  You wouldn't still be close friends if there weren't real value in the relationship. If you're lucky enough to be blessed with this type of relationship, you've got a maid of honor!

Remember your bff from your childhood? Is she still in your life?


Hopefully, your bff from today will still be in your life many years from now!

So girls, be sensible. Choose well and you can eliminate a whole lot of stress. Wedding planning is stressful without the help of a selfish, dramatic egomaniac!  Choose that loyal, long-time, helpful friend who will put you and your special day ahead of her own needs and solidify the bond that will continue to grow for many years to come!

Sisters: my two daughters are best friends and were each other's bridesmaids.

Otherwise, problems will ensue, and, by the time your special wedding day arrives,  you'll be ready to do some serious damage to her pouty, little face!